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November 2011
Sexual problems during honeymoon
Dr.Shakti Bhan Khanna
Going for your honeymoon? Leaving tonight? Never had sex before? In all these situations, you could do with some sound advice on how to have a great sexual experience, how to avoid painful sex, and what to do for immediate relief.
So here goes!

Medical conditions that may hamper sex during honeymoon
  • Honeymoon Cystitis – a condition in which a woman suffers from a urinary tract infection when an unclean finger, penis, or any other object is inserted into the vagina. This may cause vaginal infection, which can even travel to the bladder.
  • Premature Ejaculation – a condition in which a man ejaculates earlier than his wife would like him to; decreases the pleasure of sexual intercourse for the woman.
  • Erectile Dysfunction – in which men are not able to hold their penile erection for the time needed to copulate.
  • Female Sexual Dysfunction – in which newly-wed women experience a loss of libido (sexual desire).
  • Un-ruptured Hymen – may cause a lot of pain to the woman if the man tries to force himself on her.
  • Un-lubricated Vagina – which may cause rupture of blood vessels in the vagina, and lead to bleeding accompanied by pain.
Psychological reasons for unfulfilling sex during honeymoon
  • Mismatched sex drives – A difference in the levels of testosterone (hormone which increases sexual drive) in the man and the woman may hamper fulfilling sex. Low levels of natural testosterone often result in women becoming disinterested in sex.
  • Hurried sex and mismatched sexual expectations – where couples often tend to focus on reaching orgasm instead of spending time on foreplay. This leads to unsatisfied sexual expectations.
  • Ignorance about the sexual act by the couple.
  • Fear of pain due to a tight hymen
  • Incorrect information given by colleagues, friends and peers - can cause frustration during honeymoon.
Some adjustment and consideration from the husband, and a relaxed frame of mind on the part of the wife, can go a long way in successful and enjoyable sex during honeymoon.

How to have pain-free sex
  • Initiate sexual contact in a relaxed manner; kiss, touch, fondle to raise arousal levels
  • Use a gel or some other lubricant (like oil) to make penile movement inside the vagina easier
  • Adjust penile entry pace depending upon the pain being experienced with each subsequent push
  • First timers could consider postponing the propped-up-against-the-wall sex position of sexual contact
For immediate relief
  • Urinating immediately before and after sexual intercourse helps to flush bacteria from the urethra
  • Application of a water-based lubricant to the vaginal area to ease insertion

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